He is from a wealthy family and you come from the other side of the tracks.Although it was unlikely the two of you would end up dating, sparks flew and the rest is history.Often, these strategies are variations of going with the flow and taking things as they come. Isabelle, for example, is the daughter of a farmer and a bartender.(All the survey participants have been given pseudonyms.) Her family did not know how much money each year’s crops or tips would bring in.The following advice really offended me, and yet I can see some of the practical sides of it: Never date outside your social class. The business man who dates a career waitress, or the lawyer who dates a handyman: Your new significant other will feel left out, will not feel as if he fits in. They acknowledge that sometimes these things work, but say that it is rare. It actually made me angry (at least angry enough to post here.) And yet..female lawyer friend is married to a man who worked at a grocery store.
Gimme a break; this is a coffee date, not a SAP/SAR background interview.It’s fashionable right now to look to neurobiology, gender norms, or family of origin parenting styles when you’re trying to figure out why your partner is such a jerk.A new study suggests that one overlooked root of relationship problems is social class.Yet, by analyzing how individuals talked about themselves, their partners, and their marriages, I discovered that this was far from the truth. It’s also about how the amount of money and material things we used to have shape the type of people we become.Class had shaped each spouse so much that the people I interviewed had more in common with strangers who shared their class background than with their husbands and wives. People who grew up in households without much money, predictability, or power, learn strategies to deal with the unexpected events that crop up in their lives.